Ready for a Change?
If you want something to change, you have to change!
If you want something you’ve never had before, you have to do something you’ve never done.
While it seems obvious, change involves change.
Too often people say they want things to change, but they don’t actually do anything different. Why is that?
Formula For Change
Why don’t we make the changes we say we want? The formula for change lays it out clearly for us.
Formula For Change: Dissatisfaction + Vision + Action > Inertia/Resistance
Your dissatisfaction, your vision, and your actions in total HAVE to be greater than your comfort zone or resistance. You’ve probably heard “I finally had enough” in someone’s success story. Their dissatisfaction was finally greater than their resistance to change. It tipped the scales for them. In the formula for change the pieces you have the most control over are your actions and your vision.
There is no such thing as overnight success! I remember an awards banquet I attended where there was a newcomer to our company and she seemed to be an overnight success. Her accolades were so impressive. We were all blown away. But what I learned later was that she had been in our industry for over 20 years and had been crafting her skills for decades.
It wasn’t magic! Just years of discipline, hard work, sacrifice. It’s so easy for people to see someone else on the mountaintop and want to be there too. But we don’t always see what the person did to get there. All the sacrifices that it took to get to that result.
We seem to think that things should be easy, but that’s not reality. Most people won’t do the work, so they don’t get the results. I don’t want to sound like a drill sergeant. Taking action can also be exciting and fun, especially when you start to see the results and the momentum that you are creating!
Are you willing to do the things that it takes?
One of my pet peeves is people complaining without a purpose. Have you ever been in a conversation with a friend and they are complaining. You listen and acknowledge their situation but really there was nothing you could to do to change their situation at all. They just need to be heard and feel validated, right?
I’d love to teach you a little phrase that has helped me. When you find yourself in this scenario. First listen, ask clarifying questions, and then say “at the end of all this what would you like to have happen?”
My daughter is in 7th grade (we are surviving, barely). One day after school, she was giving me an ear full of all the things that her classmates were doing to annoy her. I listened and acknowledged her feelings and asked “Addison, at the end of all this complaining, what would you like to see happen?” She paused and thought about it and said “I’d like the school to stop using plastic straws.”
I was completely shocked….all of this complaining had nothing to do with her classmates’ behavior but with their overconsumption of plastics (which is my daughter’s pet peeve). After our conversation she connected with the principal and did a presentation on why and how the school could eliminate plastics straws.
Wow! It’s crazy how one phrase can be so empowering. This is a great way of clearing out the emotions and getting down to the desired results. Do you know what you want to be different? Is your clarity lacking? Feeling stuck is disempowering. But having a clear vision for what you want to create is empowering.
I’d love to help you gain clarity and create a strong vision. I will be doing a mini-vision board workshop live on FB at 9am on Saturday March 23. Download the Design your Dreams workbook and join me. We are going to walk through the workbook and I’ll be sharing my vision board and how it has helped me stay focused and achieve my goals. Join the “Dare To Dream” Facebook Group and join me there for Live event, which is the culmination of the New Year New You series.