One of my ultimate life goals is a strong marriage. My husband needs words of affirmation and praise to feel loved and appreciated. This is hard for me to remember to do. So I created a habit around reaching my goal.
I knew I needed an automated way to show my appreciation daily. I bought a simple picture frame and put it in his bathroom where he would see it daily. I use a dry erase marker to write things I’m thankful for or appreciate about the previous day.
The habit – I use his bathroom in the morning. When I go into his bathroom, I see the picture frame and the message from the previous day. I’m reminded to write a new message. I know my husband looks forward to reading these from me and it’s the pep in his step that he needs to feel appreciated by me.
Now, most people I share this with would say there is no way I can remember to do this every day. So the trick is to create a very basic HABIT that connects to your end goal.
I go to the bathroom everyday – hello mother nature! So I just created the habit of using his bathroom – I have the visual queue to remind me to do it and my ultimate life goal is to have a happy marriage. So I have no problem taking 30 seconds to write out why I appreciate him.
Making a goal of establishing a regular habit can create more tangible progress toward your ultimate dream.
Contrast that with SMART goals, which seem to be the standard in a lot of places. As you may know, a smart goal is “Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely.” And while there are places for both approaches, habit goals allow you to take small actions toward your big goals on a daily basis.
Other habit goals could include getting up early, drinking more water, or making calls. Whether they are for your business, your relationships, or your personal goals, habits are what move the needle in the long run!
Recommended Reading The Power of Habit – Charles Duhigg & 5 Love Languages